While in the past it was always a father, or a significant male relative, in the contemporary wedding ceremony a mother of the bride, or the bride’s adult children might also involve themselves in this part of the wedding ceremony.
In some cases the giving away of the bride takes place immediately the bride and the bride’s father arrives at the place where the wedding ceremony is to take place. More often, this part of the ceremony takes place after the wedding officiant has welcomed the guests and introduced the wedding couple.
While giving away the bride has been a long-standing tradition in the wedding ceremony, in a contemporary ceremony it is seen more as a vow of support.
Consequently, the ceremony can include both the bride and the groom, involving ‘both sets’ of parents and even the guests. Feel free to discuss your ideas with your wedding officiant – They have had the privilege of observing many and various ways of involving your parents (or even grand-parents) in your wedding ceremony.
To show how parents of the bride and groom are very much a part of the bride and groom’s lives, the parents can actually be part of the wedding processional with the groom being escorted by his parents, and the bride being escorted by hers.
One of the ways in which the wedding ceremony can be personalized, and at the same time get involvement from the guests, is by including a vow of support for the bride and groom from everyone present (again, please feel free to ask your wedding officiant).
From the simple and customary affirmation: “Who gives this woman . . .” to more contemporary and varied invites, you may include all the guests in your affirmation.
Samples include . . .
Will you, the families and friends in witnessing these vows do everything in your power to uphold ______________ and ___________ in their marriage?
Answer: We will (All Answer)
Who gives this woman to be married to this man?
Answers: I / We do / Her mother and I do / Her father and I do